泡妞techniques--runtines(deeper rapport) 类文摘

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The Cube]
by Organic

Those who use the cube know its power, and it has been their secret weapon.
The Cube is a game that has been used by pickup artists for some timenow, and for good reason. Recently, I asked my friends what resultsthey’ve had with the cube. The stories are all different, but they allagree: Women will thank you for it. Women will remember it. Women willfeel that you really understand them. And, women will want more. So,what is it? Well, the cube is a game of questions and symbols. It isfive simple questions of imagination that will allow you to lead awoman deeper and deeper into a seduction. For the origins of the Cube aperson could read through The Secrets of the Cube, by Annie Gottlieb.But, the pick up artist will find that he doesn’t need to understandthe traditional use of the cube. He only needs to know how to use thissecret seduction weapon. Now, the Cube can be used at anytime in aseduction… It can be used as a playful game to build attraction (byteasing a girl for her answers and making your interpretations funnyand unrealistic.) And, it can also be used in the deepest phases ofseduction to lead a woman’s mind into her sexual desires (by makingyour interpretations sexual and erotic). However, what we are going tofocus on here is using the cube to build trust and comfort. Most pickup artists will agree that the cube serves the greatest purpose fordeveloping this kind of real connection with a woman you just met. Itstarts fun and playful as a game, and it ends by leading theconversation into deeper and deeper levels of rapport. Building thistype of rapport is the real strength of the Cube. The Seven Powers ofthe CubeSo, what is the purpose of the Cube? And why do womenconsistently react so well to it? Basically, what can the cube do foryou? Well, the Cube will have many effects on your seduction….

• AvoidBoredom - One of the most common mistakes that guys make is to fallinto a boring conversation. To find out about the woman, all they canthink of are the same old questions… “Where do you live? What do youdo? What else do you do? Etc, etc…” The Cube offers a unique piece ofconversation that will move away from facts and information, and intomore emotional topics. It will lead to a discussion of things that aremore meaningful and important to her.
• Hook Her - Women LOVEthese kinds of games. You might think it is cheesy, or too New-Age.But, trust me… Women get hooked. Look through any women’s magazine, andI guarantee you will see little personality tests and games. Themagazines know what women like, and we should too. The cube will helpyou hook her into your conversation, and can even be an excuse toisolate her: "Come with me, I’m going to show you something cool…"
• DemonstrateValue and Personality - You will demonstrate a lot of value to the girlwhen you use the cube. Most simply, you are a man who leads theconversation, and already this is attractive. But, on an even deeperlevel, you can demonstrate that you understand women and what theywant. You show that you are not like all the other guys. And, throughyour own personal interpretation of the cube you reveal your ownpersonality and who you are.
• Build a Connection - The Cube willhelp build a connection and a feeling of rapport. A woman who sharesher cube with you is giving you a gift. It’s a gift of insight into whoshe really is. She will be in a vulnerable state. As you learn abouther and reveal things about yourself, she will see that you understandher. And, as she sees how you accept her gift and accept her, she willbegin to trust you more. Sharing this vulnerability with her willcreate a bond that most guys would probably never get.
• QualifyHer - The woman will assume that you must be qualifying her. Womenoften say that they were worried if they gave “the right answer.” Sheknows that you are paying close attention to her answers, and she willreally feel like you are choosing and selecting her. This is sovaluable in conveying that you are a guy who has options and who hasstandards. In addition, you will really get a chance to listen to herand find out what you like about her.
• Learn About Her - Youwill elicit what is important to her. All of the information that shegives you can be used later on in the seduction. The more you knowabout her, the more you will know how to seduce her.
• Leave HerWanting More – Once a woman experiences the Cube, she will associatethe experience with YOU. And, she will want more of you and theexperiences you bring. In fact, if you get interrupted in the middle ofthe cube, don’t sweat it. She will come back to you, asking to finish.She will want more.

Keep these effects in mind as you learnand practice the Cube. Everything you say when using the Cube should bedirected toward invoking these 7 powers. The Design of the CubeBy now,it should be obvious that the details of the game are not nearly asimportant as how you play. The structure will have many variations, andeveryone will play it differently. And that’s fine. Notice, the powerof the Cube isn’t to “be correct” or to give “the rightinterpretation.” - There are no right or wrong Cubes. So, this is how Ido the Cube. You can structure it how you like, and find what worksbest for you. “Have you ever done the cube?... Ok… I'll ask you a setof questions, and when I'm done I'll know everything about you. Are youready? Do you have a good imagination? …Good.” (The idea here is not toexplain it, but just to get her hooked.) “Now, imagine in front of youa landscape” (I’ll usually gesture with my hand for them to imagine itin front of them). “And in the landscape there is a cube. Notice whatsize is it, what color is it? What is it made of? Where is it? “Ok,next you see a ladder. Notice, where is it in relation to the cube?What is it made of? What size is it? “Next there are flowers. Where arethey? How many? What do they look like? What color are they? “Next,there is a horse. What does it look like? Where is it? What is itdoing? “And, last there is a storm. Where is it? What is it doing? Whatdoes it look like?” When she has visualized the entire image, then youcan tell her the meanings. They are: Cube = Your Self
Ladder = Your Aspirations
Flowers = Your Friends
Horse = Your Ideal Lover
Storm = Your Challenges and Problems Now, the routine I use doesn’tfollow the original book, and you shouldn’t either. Do what feels bestfor you. You can use a desert or a movie theater instead of alandscape. You can introduce it by saying “I’ll know more about youthan even your best friends know.” Or “have you ever been cubed?” Youcan have her close her eyes, or draw it out. Some people may also usedifferent meanings. (Ladder = family, or coworkers, etc…) It’s allfine. Just remember, you want to talk about things that will invoke theproper emotions in her, so avoid talking about things like children orenemies, etc… Unraveling the CubeSo, it is one thing to know the rulesof the Cube. It’s one thing to know the meanings, and the images. But,the question remains: “What do I do? Just make stuff up?” Well, what DOyou say? There are plenty of resources that will offer you exactinterpretations. But, these really shouldn’t be necessary. Remember,the point isn’t to “do it right.” The key is in giving your owninterpretation, and this interpretation can be developed from your ownmind, not from what a book tells you. However, if you are curious aboutsuggested meanings, you can read the original book or check out thislink:[url=http://www.bristollair.com/outer-game/routines/deeper-rapport/”http://www.stoneclave.com/tavern/cube/cube1.asp”]www.stoneclave.com/tavern/cube/cube1.asp[/url]Ok, since you’re not going to follow the memorized meanings what do yousay? Well, here are some suggestions. * You can be vague and usegeneralities – Just talk about women in general, and this will stillhave a powerful effect because she will relate to it. And, she willrealize that you understand people, you understand women, and youunderstand her. Example: You’re cube is xxxxxx. You are a verysensitive person. Probably you are a very good judge of character andyou can tune into those times when people just want something from you.While other times you can really feel when a person is being sincerewith you. (This describes any socially aware woman.) * You can askclarifying questions. Ask her, and she might tell you exactly whatsomething means, doing your job for you. Ask her how she feels aboutthe objects, or ask how they relate to each other.
Example:
Her: “My horse is leaning against the cube.”
You: “Really? Why is it leaning against the cube?”
Her: “Well, it’s just not strong enough.”
You: “Oh, I see. It seems like the men in your life haven’t been strongenough. You need a man who you can just look into his eyes and listento him talk, and you know that he is strong… Etc… etc...” * When youfind aspects of the interpretation that really fit her, go into greaterdetail. Tell stories from your life that relate to her, or give herexamples of how she might experience it in her life.
Example:
“You are a very creative person, but you’re not at a point in your liferight now where you are really using your creative abilities. Itreminds me of how I felt a couple of years ago. I was working in thisjob that just wasn’t creative, and I…. Etc…” * Use things that youalready know about her.
Example:
I met two girls the other night. One was bouncing around dancing, andthe other (the one I liked) was standing calmer. Later, I ran the cubeon her, and she said that her cube was blue. I said “A blue cube meansthat you are often calm and relaxed. And, sometimes your friends evencome to you just to absorb your calm energy when their lives are morehectic.” Of course, she loved it. * And… you can…. use your… intuition.Yep. Go for it. Be like the enlightened master who has become one withhis weapon and allow the force to flow through you. You might not onlysurprise her, but yourself too. More Secrets for Ultimate Mastery* Keepyour statements positive. In general, you want to phrase everything asa positive statement. If you really want to tell a woman that she haslow self-esteem and that her life is out of control and hopeless, goahead. But don’t come asking me why she was suddenly turned off anddepressed! It may take some creativity to keep things positive, but itcan be done. I’ll give you an example. If she says she doesn’t like thecube and she doesn’t think it belongs in the scene, you might bethinking “oh crap, she hates herself?” No. You can tell her “well, whenpeople see you they often want you to fit you into a category withdefined boundaries and hard edges, but that’s not who you are. You areindependent and when you find yourself being put into a box, you knowthat it’s not where you belong.” * One trick for keeping theinterpretation positive is to interpret her ideal as being the oppositeof what she describes. For example: a weak and sickly horse means thatshe has had too many weak men in her life, and she really needs onethat is strong and healthy. * Add lots of Kino and strong Eye Contact.When you are bonding with a woman on this level, it is important tokeep enhancing this experience by getting physically intimate with her.* Take advantage of the horse. It is a great time to demonstrate thatyou know what women want. If her horse isn’t ideal, then tell her it isan image of what she has attracted to her in the past, and what shereally wants is actually the opposite. As you describe her ideal man,and get her thinking about it. Look into her eyes and take on thatcharacter as yourself. She will naturally start to see you as that man.* Burst the tension now and then with a little cocky and playfulcomment. By making a joke or teasing her, you will keep it fun and keepher interested. Just be careful because she may be in a very vulnerablestate to be sharing with you, so don’t over do it. An example: “TheCube means that…. (pause) …. You want my body. (smile)” * Start theinterpretation with a bold (but irrefutable) statement about who she isand where she is in her life. This can be powerful and will demonstrateyour authority and understanding. * Use all of the little parts to geta bigger picture of her. Try to get a broad sense of who she is as aperson, and then you can use that understanding to lead yourinterpretation. * Lead her into emotional states. Using descriptivelanguaging, you can get her thinking and feeling on a deeper level. Oneway to do this is to take a general statement like “you areadventurous.” And then go on to describe what it’s like to beadventurous and how it feels. “You are adventurous. You know, like whenyou are in the middle of an adventure you really feel alive. As theexcitement builds, you become focused on what you’re doing, and you gettotally wrapped up in what is happening…etc.” * Share with her, and getinto the state yourself. If you get into a vulnerable state and revealthings to her, she will follow your lead. As part of this you may wantto relate stories that are meaningful to you. * Share your own Cube. Dothe cube on yourself and be ready to share your answers with her if sheasks. * When getting started, it may help to memorize a few ideas thatyou can use every time. For example, you can always talk about women’sintuition, or how she wants a strong confident man. As you do the cubemore and more, you will begin to develop your own interpretations thatalways get good responses, and you can have these in store for everytime you use the cube. * Work with her, and go with what she says. Youcan use everything that she gives you, no matter what she says. If shesays that the horse has a great cock, tell her that her ideal loverwill be a great fuck. Go with it. * Set the mood so that she feels goodsharing. There is no need to rush the cube or feel awkward in anyway.Use your calm trust building tonality, and keep her feelingcomfortable. * Find commonalities and develop your connection with her.Since you are learning about each other, this is a great time to findout what you have in common. * Don’t fall into the trap of being theentertainer. Don’t proceed to cube all of her friends, and her littlesister. You’re not her novelty psychic friend. * Practice to getbetter. The more you do it, the better you will get, because you willfind that many responses are very common. Cube your friends, your mom,your mailman, whoever… * Tell her that her cube is unique, and you caneven say “well, usually, that would mean this… but with you, I thinkit’s a little different.” or… “Wow, that’s such an interesting image.”Then, she will really feel special, and she will think that you aregiving her a very special gift. * Don’t reveal everything. Leave partsout, or hint that there is something more. Always leave her wantingmore. Do all this, and you will know why the Cube is our secret weapon.You will discover its power and find yourself using it on every girlyou meet. Enjoy!

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Maniac on the Cube
by Maniac High,
INTERPRETING THE CUBE NOTE: Ask the questions in the proper order (Cube, ladder, flowers, horse, storm - in that order); interpret the picture in the same order, and only AFTER she has imagined the entire picture (all five pieces mentioned above). Heck, you might even hold on to some of it to ensure a followup encounter. ("I need to think more about some of the features of your horse. Will let you know when I have an interpretation that I feel makes sense."). Some here on ASF may disagree with some of the interpretations, but that's okay; I think if an interpretation makes sense to me, it is probably correct. There are two components to the interpretation of each of the five pieces: the piece in itself, and its relation to the other pieces as well as the overall picture. The sizes and positions of various things are RELATIVE to one another and to the overall scene of the desert. Moreover, the interpretations are not according to some rigid law, they are just ways to make sense out of the woman's imagined picture, but that is the best part because as far as we are concerned here in ASF, that flexibility allows us to interpret things in a way that helps the seduction (a negative interpretation is a neg-hit! You can include small negative inperpretations whenever necessary, while generally giving a reasonably sensible interpretation overall). 1. THE CUBE: Represents the woman's conception of herself. A huge cube covering most of the scenery (Field of View or FOV) means she's got an inflated ego, a sense of high self-importance. Other features of the cube could mean: Tiny cube => feels small, insignificant, ignored, modest Cube resting on the ground => generally has a firm foothold on reality Cube far away in the distance => Feels left behind by life Cube flying in the air or levitated => daydreamer, imaginative but unrealistic Cube partly above the horizon line => ambitious Cube below the horizon => not very ambitious Cube resting on its edge => metastable life, perhaps? Cube made of solid material => good sense of self-worth, well-grounded personality Cube made of gold => Thinks of herself as extremely precious Cube made of glass or transparent cube => Considers herself pure Cube full of slimy stuff => Hates herself completely Cube hollow inside => feels hollow, unfulfilled in the extreme [interesting example: one woman know very well imagined the Rubic's cube, being twisted and turned by a child. I was not surprised because she has a sever persecution complex and total paranoia, considers everyone else stupid and childish (has a holier-than-thou mentality), feels attacked by the world, and is an emotional basketcase] 2. THE LADDER: Represents her close social support structure (friends; family in some cases). Long ladder with many rungs => big social circle, has many friends, outgoing personality, sociable Ladder made of some odd material => feels her friends are weird, very different from normal people Ladder with few rungs => has few close friends Ladder in a less than good condition => believes people around her are fucked up Ladder far away from the cube => Does not let people get too close to herself; keeps aloof, has a hard shell around herself Ladder leaning against cube => Feels she does a lot of things for her friends, supports them more than they support her, feels she has some codependent people around her Ladder on top of cube => Feels her friends/family are overbearing, feels oppressed by them Ladder much bigger than cube => feels small in her social circle\ Ladder supporting cube (like, ladder under the cube) => feels her close associates support her in her accomplishments Strong ladder => is surrounded by strong people, feels secure in them Burned up ladder => Feels surrounded by totally fucked up people who are ruining themselves 3. THE FLOWERS: Represent the place of children in her life. Number of flowers => children she has or wants to have, or has/wants to have around (See * below) Flowers close to cube => Feels very close to the children she has or will have Flowers far away => Does not want children Flowers blooming well => Feels positive about her children's lives Flowers messed up => is surrounded by screwed up children * Lots of flowers everywhere => Probably works with children, or would like to; (One chick I know had this; she is a grade school teacher) Flowers shaking in the wind => feels children in her life have hardships Flowers all around/over the cube => Feels overwhelmed by kids Flowers separated from cube by the ladder => feels her friends/family (do/will/might) interfere in her relationship with her children Beautiful flowers (roses, poppy etc) => Finds children very beautiful 4. THE HORSE: Represents her thoughts about her lover (or the lover she thinks she wants or will have). Strong, large horse => Wants a protective, strong man Color of horse => Possibly the race of the lover she wants (the teacher chick mentioned above has a "latin thing" - her horse was brown) Horse close to the cube => Wants the lover to be very close to her emotionally and physically Horse well separated from cube => Is reserved about opening up completely to lovers Horse licking/sniffing the cube => Imagines/wishes she's being doted on Small, submissive horse => Wants a lover she can dominate Wild horse => wants a guy who is not tamed and will not be tamed Tethered horse => Wants to keep him very restrained/restricted Horse stomping on the cube => Has been or feels extremely abused by lovers Horse destroying the flowers => Feels the lover will not be good towards her children (single moms probably have this thing more often) Horse messing with the ladder => Conflict between her lover and her friends Horse far away or walking away => Feels abandoned Horse separated from flowers by the cube => feels she will have to take care of the children and manage her lover's relationship with them Weak horse => envisions being (stuck?) with a wimp [example: one chick I know had a horse running around in a confined arena. She is a controlling, limit-setting type chick who likes to watch her man react to her experiments with his emotions/behavior.] 5. THE STORM: Represents her ideas about troubles in life. Storm in the distance => Troubles are not overwhelming her presently Storm approaching => Fears crises in future Storm receding => Has had troubles recently but feels they are over Huge, dominant storm => Feels her life is in deep shit Storm in the distance, passing away affecting none of the other four things in the scenery => Feels her life is relatively trouble-free, has few problems around in her life. Small storm => Feels secure about problems she will face Maniac High

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Early Cube Post
Get Cubed

Instructions: Print out this page, and fill out. or just write the answers on a piece of paper. I't's very important that you don't look ahead and just work on the questions in order, and not skip around. This requires imagination and the ability to visualize clearly. It's easy to relax and then read the questions slowly and just write down what comes to mind. When it asks to desribe, also put down how it makes you feel, if you can. Also, instincts are very important, and whatever your intuition says, put it down, even if it's not relavent at the time. After i saw the first sentance of each question, there are other little questions that follow, you do not nessesarily have to answer all of them, but they help more in determining the outcome and what it all means.

NOTE: If you can't picture something, don't force it, try again, but don't force yourself to see it. if not, put down that you can't see it. that could be just as important as seeing something.

1) Imagine desert.
Describe what's in the desert. This can be a real desert, one in pictures, or just one of fantasy. Are there objects in your desert? How big is it? What time of day is it? are you in the desert or just looking at it? How does it make you feel? Write down everything about it below.






2) In this desert there is a cube.
Describe the cube as best you can. How big is it? What is it made out of (if you can tell)? What color is it? What texture? Is it hollow or solid? How far is it from your point of view? What position is it in? Also, write down 5 adjectives to describe the cube, and the "mood" it conveys, as well as the physical qualities.





3) Now in this desert, there is a ladder, as well.
Describe the ladder. What is it made out of? Where is it in relation to the cube? How big is it?





4) There is a horse in this desert, also.
Describe the horse. What kind of horse is it? What color? Where is it? What is it doing? Does it have a saddle, a bridle, or anything? If so, what kind? How is it in relation to the Cube?






5) Somewhere in this desert is a storm.
What kind of storm is it? Where do you see it? Does it affect the Cube, Ladder, And Horse? (If so, how?)





6) And, finally, in this desert there are flowers.
Where are the flowers? Are there many? or few? What color? What kind?






That's it! that was the test! now each of those things you filled out means something, it each represents something in your life. Click the link to bring you to the page where it all is explained.



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What It All Means!!!

Look at all that you have written down. Even if you have just imagined it and haven't written it down, just make sure you remember it all.

The Master Key

The Cube is You. your symbolic self-portrait. (The adjectives you wrote down desribe yourself!)


The Ladder represents your friends, and co-workers.


The Horse represents your lover/life partner.


The Storm is trouble/upset/worry/challenge.


The Flowers are children, not nessisarily little people, but whatever you create and nurture in life.


The Desert represents your life, and view of the world.





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The Cube

Since this is probably the most important thing in the test to know about, this page is the longest and may be hard to find what you're looking for, but, again, a book on the menaings of dreams helps a lot with what some things mean.

Size of Cube

Small (if cube is smaller than knee-high, usually)
Positives ~ humility, selflessness, objectivity, realism, intimacy, preciousness
Negatives ~ timidy, undervaluing of self, literal-mindedness, conventionality, concealment, pettiness

Medium (within human scale , from knee hieght to as high as you can reach)
Positives ~ balance, warmth, modesty, self-respect, humanism
Negatives ~ Awareness, health or body image problems

Large (higher than you can reach)
Positive ~ confidence, self-esteem, generosity, subjectivity, aspiration, adventurousness
Negatives ~ egotism, grandiosity, self-importance, self-absorption, domination

Nearness to Viewer

Far From Cube
deliberates before acting, watched themself, rational self-control, self-denial, indendent, standoffish, likes soltude, needs lots of space, abstract, big-pictured oriented, visual thinker, takes long view, memory and planning, focus on the wide world

Near Cube ~ spontanious, emotional, impulsive, quick-tempered, intimate, cozy, sociable, likes company, with people, concrete thinking, detail-oriented, tactile thinker, reacts to immediate, lives in present, focus on what's right there.

What kind

Soft Cube ~ nurturing, forgiving, adaptable
Firm ~ definate, stubborn, opinionated
Solid ~ jam-packed life and agenda
Hollow ~ openness to suggestion
light ~ takes life lightly
heavy ~ takes life seriously
shiny ~ ambitious
matte ~ not driven to dazzle
transparent ~ candor, nothing to hide
translucent ~ attractively myserious, doesn't reveal all but shows emotion
opaque ~ guard privacy, slow to reveal selves, or trust others

What it's made of.

Air, space ~ merging, permeable, no boundaries
Black Slab ~ transformer, advanced
Castle/Fortress ~ guarded, cautious
Clay/ceramic/terra cotta ~ permeable, earthy, cool
Cloud ~ purity, unsullied by ordinary reality
Crystal ~ spiritual
Diamond ~ illuination, bright, confident in own ways
Dice ~ Gambler, risk-taker
Drawing (line drawing of cube) ~ intellectuallization
Edges ~ boundaries, if cube's edges are marked noticably
Fabric ~ domestic (notice what kind of fabric)
Food ~ appetites, lover of good fod, hungry
Glass ~ open, candid, factual, fragile
(if mirror, means reflecting of other people)
(if colored, or stained glass, means spiritual, or artistic)
House ~ sheltering, nurturing
Ice ~ self-possessed, poised, resourceful, calm in crisis
(note: the first time i did this i imagined an ice cube, because when i heard the
word that was the first thing i thought of)
Jeweled ~ precious
Metal ~ (depends on what kind and trait of kind of metal) tough, bright, tested,
indestructible, impenetrable
Palace ~ entitlement
Plastic ~ unpretentious, blue-collar, honest, traditional, democratic
Rubber ~ Humor, playful, energetic
Robik's Cube ~ Ingenuity, versitile, clever
Smoke ~ mystery
Spaceship ~ stranger, alone
Stone ~ substantial, reliable, principled, stubborn, conservative
Water ~ emotional, intuitive
Finished Wood ~ Cultured, refined, sensitive
Raw Wood ~ natural, creative

Color of Cube

Red ~ Passion, hot energy, anger, warmth
Green ~ hope, life, nature, money
Blue ~ spirituality, serenity, cool energy, sadness
Purple ~ royalty, deep passions, mourning
Yellow ~ cheerfulness, brightness, eccentricity
Pink ~ femininity, warmth
Brown ~ earthyness, warmth, conventionality
Black ~ mystery
White ~ purity
Multicolored ~ of many interest or moods



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The Ladder

Since the ladder represents friends, it doesn't nessesarily mean just that. It could mean how your friends affect you, how you percieve your friends, or even how they percieve you.

What the ladder is made out of,is usually compared to the cube. is it stronger than the cube? Weaker? if it is very different material than the cube, just how different is it? what does this say about your friendships and relations? this might help a little, as well:

Wooden Ladders ~ sentimental, warmth, rickety, or wobly ladders means unreliable, or ailing people.if there are broken or missing rungs, usually people have died or not as close as they used to be. some of these traits are from ladders made of wood:

Positives ~ warm, loyal, comfortable, brings heart to work, company loyalty, bonds with teamates
Negatives ~ easily hurt, a sucker for hard-luck stories, overly tolerant, too undemanding, puts relationships before performance, schmoozes on jobs

Metal Ladders ~ practicality, strong, tough,
Positives ~ chooses wisely, relies on friends, returns the favor, builds strong community, stresses performance, chooses reliable people, excellent networker, builds strong organization
Negatives ~ chooses coolly, uses friends, unsympathetic, can move on, impersonal, demands too much, downsizer, views people as stepping stones to success

Rope Ladders ~ mobility, adventurous, nomadic, flexible but strong
Positive ~ attached for life, will save life, will give freedom, adventurous, versitile, independent
Negative ~ Far away, out of touch for long periods, must be free to leave at will, restless, dilettantish, detatched

If made with anything else look up in Cube section to explain.

Other types are:
Branches ~ alternative
Cut into Cube ~ sibling
Extension Ladder ~ reserves
Paint Splettered ~ collaboration
Spiral staircase ~ on gain/off again relationships
Step-ladder ~ independence, duality
Two Ladders ~ clear distinction between close friends and acquaintances


POSITION OF LADDER

Leaning on Cube ~ mutual support, easy intimacy, "people person"
FreeStanding ~
near cube: closeness but independent
away from cube: distant, private, self-sufficient

Connecting floating Cube to Ground ~ grounding you from your ideas and dreams, but in a good way
Lying Down ~ hanging out, comfort, slackers
Inside Cube ~ trust, merging, possessiveness
Descending underground ~ kidden, illicit, subconcious

Size Of Ladder

ladder hieght is based on hieght of cube

same hieght ~ equality
shorter ~ dominance, influence, leadership over friends (what you possess)
taller ~ admiration, humility, service, opportunism (what you possess)



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The Horse

The horse, even though it represents your partner or lover, it doesn't always mean the one you are with now. it could be who your true love is, or someone you know that you perceive will be your soulmate.

WHAT KIND OF HORSE?

Arabian ~ elegant Fire
Black ~ romantic passion
Brown, bay ~ normality, warmth
Camel ~ endurance, in it for the haul
Chestnut ~ warmth, passion, temper
Donkey/Mule ~ affectionate, exasperation
Flying (pegasus) ~ transport, "takes you away"
Grey ~ cool, mature
Jumper ~ acheivement
Mare ~ motherly, sensitive, temperamental
Multiple Horses ~ a roving eye
Mustang ~ streetwise
Palomino ~ golden
Pinto, spotted ~ contrasts
Pony ~ pet, cute
Stallion ~ bold dominant, assertive, adventurous
Thoroughbred ~ competition
Two Horses ~ torn between two lovers
Unicorn~ purity, enchantment
White ~ Idealization
Workhorse ~ responsibility


SADDLE/BRIDLE/NONE

Saddle ~ domestic
None ~ freedom
Fancy Trappings ~ romantic

LOCATION OF HORSE

Standing by Cube ~ commitment, companionship
Tied to cube ~ hitched, bound
Circling Cube ~ satellite, guardian
On top of Cube ~ supported, honored, dominant, hostage
Licking Cube ~ Affectionate, demonstrative
Inside Cube ~ fantasy, fusion, possession
Near Ladder ~ friends
Being ridden by you ~ In separable
Being ridden by someone else ~ inner-directed
Lying Down ~ relaxed, lazy, tired, ill, weak
Acting up, or Scared by storm ~ high-strung, in crisis
In background ~ a life of their own
Leaving the picture ~ on the way out
Grazing ~ nourished, devouring
Hungry/Thirsty ~ starving for attention
Dead ~ " Too Late"
No Horse ~ Solitude
Inanimate Horses ~ unsatisfactory, plaything



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The Storm

Since the storm represents trouble and problems in life, it makes a lot of difference what kind of storm, where it is in the desert and how it affects the other features in the desert.

KIND OF STORM


Clouds ~ depression, apprehension
Rain ~ sadness, grief, discouragement
Wind ~ opposition, oppurtunity
Thunder ~ Conflict, Anger
Lightning ~ Breakthrough
Tornado ~ unpredictable, violence, trauma
Dust Devils ~ annoyances, psychological quirks
Sandstorms ~ painful, confusing, overwhelming
Snowstorms ~ oppurtunity
Rainbows ~ relief, hope, success

LOCATION OF STORM

Behing viewer, or Cube ~ in the past
Comming closer ~ approaching
Here, now ~ present, recent
Inside Cube ~ inner turmoil
On the horizon ~ it's inevitable but not on the mind
Out of Sight ~ good fortune, denial

HOW IT AFFECTS CUBE, LADDER, AND/ OR HORSE

Blown away ~ devastation, means what it says
Buried under sand ~ overwhelming troubles
Erosion or pitting ~ wearing down
Flooding ~ filled with emotion
Horse Freaks out ~ high strung, or over burdened lover
Horse huddles by Cube ~ lover depends on you
Horse/Ladder taken inside cube ~ you are protective, generous and nurturing
Horse lies down ~ lover lies low in crisis
Horse Runs Away ~ lover can't be counted on in crisis
Ladder Broken ~ friendship disrupted by trouble
Ladder hovers over Cube ~ you relyon friend as protector
Ladder knocked down ~ you are helpless and friends must stand on own feet first
Ladder sheltered by Cube ~ you look out for friends in crisis
Struck by Lightening ~ mean you have suffered a shock or blow, or, had a brainstorm
Water Damage ~ sadness, greif
The desert Blooms ~ renewal



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The Flowers

The book says that it represents children, or children of our mind/body, which is what we love and nurture, such as a hobby or even pets. Some flowers resembles "children" some flowers stand for feelings towards "children" or just the quality of them.

TYPE OF FLOWER

Anemone ~ forsaken
Azalea ~ protectiveness, fragile
Cactus ~ Endurance
Carnation ~ unforgettable
Chrysanrhemum ~ leisure, optimism, long life, happiness
Crocus ~ cheerfulness
Daffodil ~ sunny
Daisy ~ innocence, purity
Dandalion ~ faithfulness, happiness
Forget-Me-Not ~ true love, memories
Forsythia ~ antisipation
Geranium ~ stupidity, follishness
Gladiolus ~ sincerity, strength of character
Iris ~ faith, hope, promise
Lily ~ purity, motherhood
Lily of the Valley ~ sweetness, humility,returning happiness
Marigold ~ cruelty, greif, jealousy
Narcissus ~ vanity, self-absorbtion
Orchid ~ thoughts, ideas
Petunia ~ resentment, anger, or soothing of those feelings
Pointsetta ~ Festivity
Poppy ~ sleep, oblkvian, fantasy
Rose ~ love, or, if yellow, friendship
Tulip ~ imagination, perfection, luck, fame
Violet ~ modesty, simplicity, faithfulness
Water Lillies ~ Devotion
Wildflowers ~ spontaneity, freedom
Zinnia ~ rememberance, constancy, lasting affection

Artificial/Plstic ~ appearance of success but without risk
Dead Flowers ~ days of "children" over


LOCATION OF FLOWERS

By base of Cube ~ under your wing
Around Cube ~ like closeness of many
On top of Cube ~ on your back,. living on you
Growing all over Cube ~ depending on you
Inside Cube ~ could mean pregnancy, nurtured, protected, possessed
Cut Flowers in Vase ~ disconnected, on display
In foreground ~ first and foremost
In garden or oasis ~ freedom with safety, well-provided-for
Under a Tree ~ sheltered, but independent
Growing on a tree ~ Miracles
Near ladder ~ you think of friends aas children sometimes
Under horse ~ protected by partner
On the horse ~ your partner's prize
Eaten by horse ~ a demanding lover, competition
Under storm ~ troubled
Falling from sky ~ inspiration
Scattered randomly ~ on their own
In patches ~ dabbler, eclectic
In a field ~ a faithful following
No flowers ~ a dry spell, childless



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The Desert

The desert represents your life, and how you look at the world. it's probably the most important, next to the cube. In the book, it is the most explained since there are so many different deserts that poeple have in their minds. Nothing you put in your desert is there by accident. It all represents something. That something may be personal and meaingful to you. But there are common features that show up a lot of deserts that can represent the foloowing.

CACTI ~ usually difficult people, or other difficulties, but because of the humanoid shape, mostly referes to a humans or many as the case may be.

PALM TREES ~ sources of support, shelter, and nourishment.

WATER ~ emotional nurishment, the presence of feeling or love.

MIRAGES ~ life's illusions. could be good, such as a good imagination, or bad, as in being lied to, and untrusting.

DUNES ~ sensuality, especially for a woman, (notice how DUNE and NUDE are anagrams of eachother), satisfying love life, pleasure.

MOUNTAINS ~ spirituality, snowcapped could mean that you chooose to keep a spiritual perspective in sight.

CLIFFS AND/OR GULLIES ~ dramatic events, or emotional highs and lows

BARE DESERT ~ sign of extreme self-reliance. independence.


TIME OF DAY ~ may indicate time of life, portraying the mood, or just to give a better background of the world.


Most of what is in the desert is based on how you feel about it and what comes to mind when you think of the features in your desert.



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FINAL NOTE

All of this information given on these pages about the Cube game, has been taken
from the book
SECRETS OF THE CUBE
by Annie Gottlieb and Slobodan D. Pesic

There is much much much more information if you are interested and more elaboration on a lot of the explanations of what i put on these pages.

Even though, you already by now know what each of the things in the desert represent, you can stll play the game over again, after a while, because, of course, everything changes with time. I've done this over 10 times probably. It's very relaxing. 've gone from an ice cube, to a metal cube to a tiny chipped cube to a large mirrored carpetted cube, so, everything can definately change.

Another thing to know about. The representations of some things may not be what they are to you. it's really apersonal way of looking at whatever it is that you are seeing. if seeing a glass cube doesn't mean that you are see through and you believe it's because you are firm, but open, then that's what it means. it's really according to your point of view.

I hope you had fun with this. Everytime i "cube" someone, i get so amazed at the different answers that some people come up with for stuff. like one of my friends had a staircase of cubes, and another's horse was peeing on the flowers (i don't even want to go into what that could have meant) but have fun with it!

老岸

Three Smiles
by Magnus,

Any time the chick smiles, you can run this routine. It's best used once you've established that you are cool, and that you are quite attractive to her.
"Hey... you know... you have three smiles." (usually, she'll smile in response to this) "and there's a fourth!" (she'll probably ask something, and then you improvise along the lines of the following) "Yeah, that was your 'I'm flattered' smile, and then you have a... um, not fake... but a polite smile... then there's this really genuine smile when you laugh, and your whole face lights up. Then there's this smug, 'hey this guy fancies me' smile. I've a feeling I might see that a lot."

Guaranteed to make girls fall in love with you. This is the sweetest thing anyone has ever told them. They will remember it and think about it when you are gone.

Watch 'Win a Date With Tad Hamilton' if you want to know where it came from

I almost feel bad using this as a routine and posting it, because chicks love it and remember it so much.

Magnus

老岸

Deep Rapport Builder
by IN10SE

This is a rapport builder as well as an opportunity for anchoring for those of you that do this. In addition, it really shows that you GET IT, when it comes to "relationships", when a chick brings it up.

I had to come up with a good response on the fly when a few of the gals I have been out with lately have asked me what I'M looking for in a "relationship". I normally don't like to bring up the "R" word, but when a gal brings it up, you have to have a good reply... one that will show them that you are intelligent, that you have it together, that you are sophisticated, and that there is more to you than meets the eye.

Now the context of using this is that I have only used it with gals in a casual environment, (a bookstore, coffeeshops, restaurant). Haven't tried it in clubs nor do I think it would work in a club setting. This is for when you are alone, having one of those one on one, deep rapport conversations, as a prelude to (a few steps before) the full close. Here was my response... and everytime I've used it so far, it has gotten deep levels of rapport (it became about them seducing ME) as well as broken down any resistance...

As far as anchoring, when I've done this, I used sugar packets once, and I used my fingers (pointing to them) the other times.

(You may want to read the theme itself before reading about the anchoring part next so that it will make more sense)

Actually using my fingers as an anchor was kind of a subtle sexual signal, because I would put my 3 right hand fingers up (one finger for each value, as if counting), and point to them with my left index finger and then when I would do each of the "2 values without the 1", I would form a "ring" with my thumb and index finger of my left hand that would encircle the two fingers of the other hand... and as I talked I subtly slid my encircling hand up and down over my fingers. (first each of the 2 together and then the 3 all together at the end)

I actually did this without thinking about it consciously at first, then I wondered why the chick I was talking to got all flushed and started breathing heavy as I was moving my left hand index/thumb "ring" up and down the "shafts" of the fingers of my right hand. Anyway, here it is...

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“I have a new theory about all relationships and what makes up the ideal one.

First of all you need Passion. This is where you have a physical chemistry with this person, where you feel drawn to this person that you’re with, you may even feel a warm feeling right here in your stomach and maybe it spreads all over your body when your with this person… where you can lose track of time and give yourself completely to this experience…

Next you need Intimacy. This is where you feel an emotional connection with this person, like you’ve known them before, and like you were always meant to know this person… like this was meant to be and where you feel completely comfortable and close… and you may feel it right here in your heart…

Then you need Commitment. Philosophers have called this a sense of “duty”… where you feel secure, knowing that this is someone that is here for you, that we both choose to be together… and this is someone that you can see yourself with now and in the future…

Now, all relationships are based on varying degrees of each one of these elements.

For example if you have just passion, but no intimacy or commitment, then that would be like just physical infatuation. Like a one night stand or something… nothing more, nothing less…

If you have just intimacy, but no passion or commitment, then that would be just friendship. And we all have those…

If you have just commitment, but no passion or intimacy, then that would be an empty relationship. Like a lot of married people out there… so sad.

Then you can have passion and intimacy, but no commitment. This is like a “Romantic affair”… and maybe the knowledge that it is something that's now or never… or that you have no guarantees about, makes the passion and intimacy even more intense…

And you can have passion and commitment, but no intimacy. That is like people who stay together because they really like the sex.

And you can have intimacy and commitment but no passion. That would be like grandma and grandpa who are together for companionship, but cant remember the last time they did it.

And of course the ideal, as with all things… is about balance, where you can have just the right amount of passion, just the right amount of intimacy, and just the right amount of commitment… well… now that I think about it, an extra little bit more passion would be nice… what do you think?”

IN10SE

老岸

Comfort Builders
Some rough ideas for building comfort,

by sailing addict.

1. Point out your own vulnerabilities, like “I am a total idiot when it comes to reading maps. If it weren’t for Yahoo directions, I wouldn’t be able to make it to Starbucks across the street.” 2. Talk about how hard it is to find somebody you can trust. “But when you do find a person like that, it opens a whole world of possibilities for both of you. How do I tell that I can trust someone I’ve just met? I imagine a time in the future, and if I can imagine still trusting that person, I know I can trust them now. I do this test all the time, and it never fails. Many times, years later you’ll look back at the time when you’ve first met, and realize how genuine your feeling of trust was, and how fortunate you were to carry it through the years.” A lot of times when you say how hard it is to find someone you can trust, she’ll go “You can trust ME!!!” 3. Bust on her. What a paradox of life. 4. Make it seem you’re looking out for her: “You know, the roads are pretty slippery tonight, why don’t we postpone the dinner at my place, and talk on the phone instead.” She’ll be twice as eager to drive to your place that very minute. 5. If she is really reserved (especially if she is a younger chick), keep talking and talking, make her feel that she doesn’t have to contribute anything to the conversation. Many times she’ll get comfortable eventually, and will start to open up.
sailing addict

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