与女人建立亲密联系Building "Connection" with a Woman
Building "Connection" with a Woman By Derek Vitalio
与女人建立亲密联系 Derek Vitalio
Derek Vitalio
Virtually all women want to feel an intimate sense of bond and connection with their man in a relationship.
So a lot of guys naturally attempt to establish that sense of bond and connection with a girl right away.
事实上所有女人对和她们有过关系的男人，都会想得到一种联系的亲密感。因此很多男性都想立刻尝试和一个刚认识的女孩建立这种亲密感。
They approach a girl at a bookstore or club and attempt to establish deep rapport right away by eliciting her values or doing an incredible connection ROUTINE.
他们的做法就是：在书店或者俱乐部走近一个女孩，想靠赞美她的某方面价值或者做一个不可思议的搭讪的例行公事，并以此来尝试立刻建立深层次的融洽。
Unfortunately, they walk away brushed off by the girl and scratching their heads as to what they did wrong.
很不幸，他们走过去，被女孩拒绝，然后抓耳捞腮，就是想不通自己那里做错了。
What went wrong is that they tried to establish an intimate bond and connection TOO SOON.
他们错误的根本在于：试图建立一种亲密感，但是他们的尝试太快了。
Yes, getting deep rapport with a girl is necessary - eventually.
的确，最终结果就是与女孩建立一种深层次的融洽关系。
But NOT at the first moment you meet her.
但是在你见她的第一次面时，不要尝试这样做。
If you try for bond, connection, and deep rapport at the first moment you meet a girl, it will blow up in your face. Why?
如果你尝试在第一次见一个女孩时，就想建立联系和深厚的融洽，那你肯定会失败的。为什么呢？
Because you don't have enough Social Value to the girl yet.
这是因为此时对于这个女孩来说，你还没有足够的社会认证价值。
It's not that women don't like that building that sense of bond and connection with a man. They LIKE it. They WANT it.
然而这并不是那个女的不喜欢和男人建立那中亲密感。事实上他们喜欢它也需要这种亲密感。
They just want to do it with a man with equal or higher social value than themselves.
只是她们只想和与她们有同样的或者更高的社会认证价值的男性建立这种亲密感。
If you jump directly into Bond and Connection (B&C) routines and material right away without establishing any social value first, you'll just come across as another "nice guy".
如果你一上来就直接想用惯例和材料来达到这种亲密联系感，然而你的社会认证价值还没有建立，这时候你只好装成另外一个“好男人”，从她身边走开。
Step one - Build Social Value with a Girl
第一步：与一个女孩建立社会认证价值
First, you have to build your social value to the girl. As I've discussed in detail before, there are many ways of doing this:
首先：对于那个女孩，你必须建立你的社会认证价值。就象先前我已经讨论过的，有很多钟方法来建立你的社会认证价值。
1. Social proof - she sees you talking with other hot girls
社交证明-让她看见你和很多辣妹一起谈笑风生。
2. Nonverbal Sexual Cues - good voice, strong body language, eye contact, etc.
不要作口头的性暗示-磁性的声调，强有力的身体语言，眼神接触，等等。
3. Ignoring social pressure - you walk right up to her, ignore everybody else extremely confident and brash
无视社会的压力-你要非常自信和傲慢地忽视周围任何人，直接走到她身边。
4. Your visual style - how you're dressed, groomed, etc
您的视觉风格-您如何穿着得体，如何打扮等
5. Demonstrating value obliquely - winning over her friends, telling cool stories, palm reading, etc
不着痕迹地展示自己的价值—赢的她朋友们的信任，讲很酷的故事，看手相等等。
6. Disqualifying yourself - ignoring her in front of her friends
让自己不合格—在她朋友面前忽略她。
7. Screening her - make her earn your acceptance
筛选她—让她来赢的你的认可
Derek Vitalio
