Great Conversation Topics- Handling Boring Responses From Women
实用的交流话题---让你更好的应对来自女人令人沉闷的回应

Conversations with woman are about having fun and building comfort. In fact, when you initially approach a woman, your goal is to progress from being a perfect stranger to making a deep connection.
与女性交流的重点在于建立舒适感和愉悦感。事实上，从一开始你接触一个女人，你的最终目的就是由一个完全的陌生人通过交流与她建立密切的关系。

The problem is you’ll often encounter a situation where a girl is not being helpful with the questions you ask her. Whether she’s being deliberately cold because you haven’t built enough attraction or because she’s a boring person, YOU have to know how to handle the conversation when it starts going south. [For more on how to create an exciting conversation, take a look at the Master the Vibe system] .
问题在于你会经常碰到这样一种情况，女孩对你给出的话题一点都不感冒。不管是因为你没有足够的吸引力导致她对你的冷淡还是她本身觉得你是一个令人厌烦的家伙，你要知道当这种情况发生时，要如何去掌控你们之间的交流。（如何进行令人兴奋的交流，更多信息请访问Master the Vibe）

First off, if a woman is being cold and unresponsive to your questions, this means you haven’t built enough attraction to get past her Bitch Shield. If that’s the case, STOP asking questions and concentrates on demonstrating high status.
On the other hand, if you know you built attraction and you received a few IOIs, then you might have to call out her boring behavior.
For instance, say you’re trying to build rapport and find out more about her, you would say something like:
首先，如果当一个女性开始对你的问题毫无反应或者表现出冷淡的态度，证明你没有建立足够的吸引机制打破她的保护层。当这种情况发生时，停止问问题，集中精力用于建立自身高价值。从另一方面来说，如果你建立了足够的吸引机制并收到了一些来自于她的IOI, （求then you might have to call out her boring behavior.如何翻译？？）举例来说，你需要建立起和谐的交流环境并且由此对她做进一步了解。以下方式可供参考：

“What do you do for fun?”
If you get a bland answer, like “Nothing much” or “I don’t know…”, then you have to take control of the conversation. Typically guys flounder when something like this happens. When they ask a question and get a blank response, they often say a few things that destroys any chance of attraction.
“平时你都找些什么乐子？”
如果你得到的是一个不明确的答案，比如：“没什么”或者“我也不知道”，此时，就需要你来控制整个交流过程了。颇具代表性的是当这种情况发生的时候，很多人都无计可施。他们问问题，得到了一个不明确的答案，然后再讲一些无关紧要的东西致使他们没有任何机会再建立吸引机制。


For instance, here’s how the average guy acts in a situation like this:
YOU: “So what do you like to do for fun?”
Her: “Not much, I guess”
YOU: “Oh ok. Do you like to travel?”
Her: “I guess…sometimes.”
YOU: “Oh ok. What type of job do you have?”
HER: “Accounting”
举例来说，一般搓男们碰到这种情况会这么做：
“平时你一般都找些什么乐子”
“我想没什么吧”
“哦 好吧 你喜欢旅行吗？？”
“我想……有时候吧”
“哦 好 你是做什么工作的”
“会计”

Right here, you can imagine how this conversation will go NOWHERE. By asking a series of boring questions like this, you’ve been sucked into her boring, unresponsive world.
至此，你可以想象这样的交流最终如何收场。经过一系列的令人厌烦的问题，你只会引起她的反感，最终导致她不愿意与你再进行交流。  

What I recommend is to something a little different. If a woman gives you a boring answer, IMMEDIATELY address this answer and do a little bantering. In essence, you’re calling a girl out because she’s not helping you in the conversation. So let’s work on the example from before:
YOU: “So what do you like to do for fun?”
Her: “Not much, I guess”:
YOU: “Wow…are you always this exciting?” [Say with a smile]
Her: *Startled* “Ummm…no of course not. Ok, I guess I like to …"
This is one of those techniques which seems counterintuitive at first. Women are used to men who say only nice things. They’re not used to guys who present a little bit of a challenge.
So if you’re ever in a situation where you get one word or terse responses, then start calling out her boring behavior. If you do this with a smile and let her know that you’re not treating her like a child, you can easily turn a boring conversation into one that’s exciting.
我所要提及的东西有那么一点点不同，而且至关重要。如果她给你了一个令人不爽的回答，立刻以一种嘲弄的方式处理这个回答。从本质上来说，由于女孩在双方的交流中没有起到积极作用，你需要唤起她交流的欲望。我们还是用前一个事例来进行分析：
“平时你都找些什么乐子？？”
“没什么吧”
“喔！！！！你一直都是这么令人兴奋吗？”（带着一丝微笑）
（略微震惊）“厄….当然不是 呵呵 我想我喜欢….”
这是一种看似违规常理却十分有用的技巧。女性大多是比较喜欢善于甜言蜜语的家伙们而非给她们挑战的人（此句求更好的译法）
因此当你收到简洁乃至一个词的回答时，此时你需要处理她令人沉闷的行为。如果你尝试此种方法，面带微笑，让她知道你不是把她当作小孩子戏耍，你会很容易将原本无趣厌烦的交流转变为令人兴奋愉悦的沟通。

[ 本帖最后由 云心 于 2008-7-3 23:16 编辑 ]

小弟第一次上论坛翻译  不当之处请海涵

因為第二段中提到
....or because she’s a boring person....
她可能是個悶騷的人

所以...then you might have to call out her boring behavior
意思應該是
當你得到她的ioi後，這時你可能要點出她那悶騷的行為

不過我想作者的意思應該不是叫你當面斥面她
而是用C&F的態度來tease her.

[ 本帖最后由 dartagnan 于 2008-7-5 03:12 编辑 ]

我不赞同楼上的观点,因为闷骚应是man show的翻译

觉得楼主的翻译很厉害,厉害

过奖了  有待提高

高手  这么解释一下子就通了

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原帖由 sunsun9870 于 2008-7-4 15:17 发表
因為第二段中提到
....or because she’s a boring person....
她可能是個悶騷的人

boring有闷骚的意思？我从没听过这种用法。

我理解的boring只有“闷”，没有“骚”的意思。

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原帖由 云心 于 2008-7-3 23:12 发表
Women are used to men who say only nice things. They’re not used to guys who present a little bit of a challenge.
女性大多是比较喜欢善于甜言蜜语的家伙们而非给她们挑战的人（此句求更好的译法）

be used to 是"习惯于"的意思。

这里是说

女人习惯了男人对她说好听或者恭维的话，而不习惯男人对她表现出稍微有点挑衅的意味。。

我查了一下
dartagnan大大說得對
那麼我想boring翻作"無趣的"比較好吧.!!