<Compliments By Magnus>赞美的技巧-转载
here is a right and a wrong way to give compliments to girls. In fact, there is a way that is very very right, and a way that is very very wrong.
对mm的赞美方式是有对错之分的，事实上，有一种非常正确的方式，也有一种非常错误的方式。
Some guys will tell you not to give compliments at all, but giving compliments can be a very powerful technique when done right.
有些人会让你千万别去夸mm，但是如果夸的好的话，赞美就会是一种非常有用的技巧。
Wrong Compliments
The wrong sort of compliments come from a place of perceived lower value.
错误的赞美
当你因为夸奖mm而被看出低价值的时候，这就是错误的赞美。
This is how AFCs compliment chicks. They say "You're so pretty" or "You're so clever" and the SUBCOMMUNICATION is "I hope someone like you could be interested in me!"
这就是搓男们夸mm的方式，他们会说“你真漂亮”或是“你真聪明”，
这些话的潜台词就是“我真希望有个像你这样的人能对我感兴趣”
Proper Compliments
Conversely, proper compliments actually subcommunicate higher value. They should come from a position of authority and imply a unique quality or interested in me!"
这就是搓男们夸mm的方式，他们会说“你真漂亮”或是“你真聪明”，
这些话的潜台词就是“我真希望有个像你这样的人能对我感兴趣”
Proper Compliments
Conversely, proper compliments actually subcommunicate higher value. They should come from a position of authority and imply a unique quality or commonality.
适的赞美
相反，合适的赞美显示出来高价值，只有当你是个权威并且表现出来一种独特的品质的时候才是这种情况。
The proper structure for an effective compliment is:
下面是有效赞美的恰当的结构：
Compliment "that's a great scarf"
Qualify the compliment "it matches your mascara and shoes, I like that"
Challenge her or enquire "did you choose it yourself?"
Thanks to Geoff of RSD for educating me on point 3.
（第一步）赞美：“那围巾真不错”
（第二步）让赞美变得有价值“那玩意很配你的眼影和鞋子，我喜欢这样”
（开始丢neg）挑衅她，问她“是你自己搭配的吗？”
Some examples:
一些实例
"You're very confident... I like that in a girl... How did you get to be like that?"
"Nice dreadlocks!... They must have taken ages... Aren't they hard to clean?"
WILKY's - Why I LiKe You's
A good way to think about compliments is as a WILKY. It's important to tell girls WHY you like them, and give reasons other than "you have a vagina".
“你看起来很有自信。。。我喜欢女孩子有自信。。。你是怎么做到的？”
“好正点的长头发啊！。。。。它们肯定花了你不少时间。。。。它们是不是很难弄干净？（你洗头的时候不累吗？）
wilky——为什么我喜欢你
合适地表达出赞美就是wilky，告诉mm你为什么喜欢她们很重要，而不是净给出一些比如“你有个洞洞”这样的理由。
Well done sheriff for thinking up a nice acronym.
这句实在翻不了，但看起来意思不是很重要，高手指教下吧。
When to give compliments
In general, you want to give compliments only when the girl is sufficiently attracted. This will usually mean "not straight away".
什么时候赞美
一般说来，只有当mm们被你吸引得差不多了的时候你才要夸她，这通常意味着这是“间接的方式”。
If you feel that the chick things your value is way higher than hers, then you need to qualify her, and compliments are a good way to do this.
如果你觉得在一些事情上你的价值要比她们高，那你就需要肯定她，赞美就是一种比较好的肯定方式。
Opening with Compliments
One way to give compliments early on is as an OPENER, and it's a great exercise to see if you can make these work. The important thing is to be non-
reaction-seeking.
用赞美开场
一种夸mm的方式就是把赞美做开场白，并且你还能看看你能不能做到让赞美起作用，这也是个很不错的练习。要注意的一点是夸了mm后，千万别去特意寻求mm的反应。
Compliment her - "nice dreadlocks", "cool shoes", "I like your earrings", in a totally casual, confident, non-reaction seeking way.
Backturn, turn back to your friend, look away, disregard. If it's a server at a bar I'll roll right into ordering without waiting for a response "cool-
earrings-could-I-have-three-pints-of-Ale-please"
Wait for her to re-open. Depending on how you turn away she'll tug on your arm or casually swing into view. If she doesn't re-open you, it's probably
because she's shy. Re-open her later with "hey, cool-shoes-girl" or whatever.
Magnus
夸她——"正点的头发”，“漂亮的鞋子”，“我喜欢你的耳环”，这些话是非常非常普通的，并且表现了你的自信，没有去特意寻求她的反应。
向后转，转向你的朋友，看别的地方，忽视她。如果是在酒吧的吧台，我说完后，不会去关心她的反应，而是马上向右转,比如“很漂亮的耳环，（转过身），我要三杯酒，谢谢
等待她重新拾起话题，看你是怎么转身的，她会拖住你的手臂或是时不时地进入你的视线。如果她没有主动拾起话题，很可能是她太害羞了，待会你再主动说“嗨，漂亮的耳环女孩”或是什么都可以。
[ 本帖最后由 小鸟 于 2008-6-26 22:23 编辑 ]
